So the internet’s abuzz with the British professor who got gate-crashed by his kids, but I thought I’d share another video like that which I thought was delightful (and a good demonstration of the hazards of kids on live TV).
As I’ve mentioned before, there is this wonderful new preemie memoir book, Juniper: The Girl Who Was Born Too Soon, by Kelley and Tom French. I’m reading through it and enjoying it greatly. The prose is beautiful and breezy and makes me want to keep reading.
It’s impressive how much time the authors spend on parental backstory, which you wouldn’t think would work as the book is about a baby born at the edge of viability, but it does work very well. The process of getting married was long and arduous for Kelley and Tom — there’s Tom’s divorce, having two girlfriends and eventually moving in with one of them, moving out, wanting to get back together, and lots and lots couples counseling. The narrators alternate chapters with who gets to write, which you also wouldn’t think works, but it does. When Tom is writing about this time in his life with the two girlfriends, he talks about “ashes in his mouth” when he’s lying to one of them, which is a powerful image.
When natural conception doesn’t work for them, they go looking for an egg donor, and rather than go through the catalogs of young women offering their eggs, they go with Jennifer, a younger married friend of theirs, and Kelley develops quite a crush on her. She illustrates this unique relationship wonderfully — not quite a bisexual feeling, but sort of erotic in that they’re going to be sharing a pregnancy. But that’s what good writing is about — making the reader see things they wouldn’t otherwise be able to see.
Next up is the actual pregnancy and preemie birth. We’ll see how that goes soon!
At present I am reading Juniper: The Girl Who Was Born Too Soon. You may remember this story from an amazing Radiolab episode on this preemie birth in Tampa Bay, or perhaps the Tampa Bay Times series itself that inspired said story, and was a finalist for the 2013 Pulitzer Prize in Feature Writing.
The book opens with a searing one-page description of what the baby looked like shortly after birth, and it includes the phrase “shuddering fist of her heart,” which is one of those sharp bits of imagery writers use to convey a shock of something readers have never seen. I read that and thought, “Yeah, that’s exactly what it looks like.”
And then it leaves you there in that awful place to talk about… flirting? Yes, the book then has a chapter written by Kelley about how she wooed Tom years back in the newsroom and was frustrated by his slowness in getting around to actually marrying him. It’s a breezy, enjoyable tale of romance and new beginnings.
I would complain about this, but this is exactly what my developmental editor told me to do. And I was like, “Isn’t that jarring, jumping straight to backstory that is so much less intense than the present action?” And Susan said, “No, you have to introduce the main characters right away.”
So apparently Susan was right and that’s how this memoir genre goes.
That’s the end of the micro-review because that’s as far as I’ve gotten (last week’s snowstorm ate all my adult time as the schools closed for two days). Next is a chapter by Tom, which is an interesting alternating narrator thing that everybody told me not to try. So we’ll see how it works.
Here’s a website the authors are using to promote the book if you want more info.
(WBTV/CNN) — A baby in South Carolina, born at 22 weeks, was only given a 10 percent chance of living. His mother was heartbroken but kept faith he would somehow make it.
So imagine the joy she felt when she brought him home with none of the conditions that doctors expected he might have.
Ok, it’s mostly memorization, but I still think it’s a pretty cool skill. 🙂
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There’s this series of Tampa Bay Times stories by Kelley Benham French. I read them shortly after they came out in 2012. Her daughter, Juniper, was born a year before our son, Gabriel, was born. Juniper was born at 23 weeks and 6 days of gestation and then stayed at the hospital for six and a half months with a surgery for necrotizing enterocolitis and several near-death moments in the hospital.
The Tampa Bay Times series of stories gave me chest pains the first time I read them. The stories were later developed in to an hour-long documentary for Radiolab, which I must admit, I avoided as my wife told me that it included audio of the desaturation alarms in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit which is another trigger for me that makes me feel awful. But today, I actually got around to listening to it, or to an updated version that includes a visit with Juniper at age 5, and I thought it was wonderful.
What I liked best about it was the thoroughness in which they describe the “should we treat the preemie” dilemma when a child is born in the gray area between 22 and 25 weeks of gestation. That part is somewhere around the 13-minute point in this story. Another thing I really loved about it when the parents asked for a second consult and received a visit from a neonatal nurse practitioner. The first consult came from a neonatologist, a male doctor who asked logical questions about what path to take next. That, of course, is necessary, but the nurse practitioner, a woman with more than 30 years in the NICU, was able to illustrate what she had seen among the preemies she had treated, and that kind of illustration is very necessary to a parent trying to make a decision. This moment is one of the strangest ethical/moral moments a person can be in.
I’ve been working on an article on improving this moment of decision (called antenatal counseling) for The Journal of Pediatrics. I and a doctor who collaborated with me have been through three drafts of the thing. I wish I could share the draft, but… I gotta wait.
Anyway, the Radiolab story is excellent. And, it also includes some interviews with Keith Barrington, a neonatologist whom I’ve corresponded with a couple of times. One frustrating aspect of the documentary is that includes a story of Dr. Barrington and his wife, who had a 24 week, 5 day preemie themselves, at the verge of “letting go” or switching to palliative care only, but the darned Radiolab editors neglected to mention that the Barrington preemie did actually make it.
This plug-in thing should make the story go:
Cuddling small and premature babies in a style known as “kangaroo mother care” helps them in life decades later, researchers reported Monday.
They found that babies held upright and close to bare skin and breastfed, instead of being left in incubators, grew up with fewer social problems. They were far less likely to die young.
It’s a reassuring finding for parents who may worry that tiny and premature babies are safer in an incubator than in their arms, the team wrote in their report, published in the journal Pediatrics.
Kangaroo mother care was first described in Colombia, and the team of experts there who first showed it was safe did a 20-year follow-up to see how the babies fared as they grew up. They tracked down 494 of the original 716 children who were born prematurely from 1993 to 1996 and randomly assigned to get either kangaroo mother care or standard handling. [Read more on the NBC site]
Parental guilt moment: Got the time wrong on the pre-school’s gingerbread construction event. Showed up as they were finishing. Teacher told me that Gabriel had been quite excited that I was going to come. Here’s how the conversation went:
Gabriel: Where is my daddy?
Teacher: Sometimes things come up.
Gabriel: I think it was the sun.
They let me talk about our NICU experience at the OCAMPR conference in Boston. And, now the presentation has audio from the Q&A!