When Miri’s water broke at 22 weeks and 6 days of gestation, we knew our child was in extreme danger, and we were trying to cling to some hope he might live. The neonatologist who came to talk to us didn’t help with hope.
“At this stage, I don’t recommend that babies should be intubated just because the results are so poor,” he said to us. “If you give birth after midnight — that’s just the line for when we’ll intervene — I’ll be the one who comes and resuscitates the baby, but my heart won’t be fully in it.”
Wait, what? The doctor can just refuse to provide care and leave the baby to die, even though the family wants to try to save him?
Here is one of the most difficult questions in medicine…