One of the things about becoming a Dad for the first time is that you feel a little disconnected as Mom is by far the more necessary person in the birth. Having your first child go in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit is especially frustrating, as it feels like there is so little you can do for your child.
When our son was born at 22 weeks and 6 days of gestation, machines, drugs, and highly skilled medical professionals kept him alive, and we were spectators.
One memory I have of trying to feel useful

See the rest of my post on Preemie Babies 101, where it was originally published.